I used to be hardly here.
Let me explain. Since I’ve lost so many loved ones, I made a decision.
Okay, I’ll be here, but I won’t enjoy myself.
God wants us to live, not merely exist.
Enmeshment will sometimes make it hard to be happy when others are not. It blurs the lines between people.
I took a little piece of chalk and outlined all my skin,
to understand more fully, where you end and I begin.
“Survivor guilt,” is another term I could relate with. It’s when you feel guilty when your loved ones die and you’re still alive.
I recently read a book that’s causing me to believe it’s possible to be happy.
God is happy when we’re happy
God used one of my little grandsons to show me this.
I LOVE my grandchildren. They are one of God’s best ideas. I love watching my grandkids play. And when they’re happy—I’m happy. I’m serious about that.
I remember when Charlie who is four, lost his special car, one he slept with.
He said, “Gwamma, I don’t think I’ll find my blue Lightning McQueen, ever again.”
His sad blue eyes broke my heart.
“Did you pray about it, Charlie?” I asked.
And so he did, right then.
I’m a grandma who knows how important little things are to little hearts. So, I went looking yet again, for his beloved car.
God cares about what we care about
God cared about that car, because God cares about Charlie. Giddy, I came downstairs with my hand behind my back.
“Charlie, guess what Grandma found?”
“I don’t know,” he said.
“Charlie, God answered your prayer!”
And when he saw his car; a smile covered his fully freckled face.
Thinking of that day, I realize something important. God gives us the gift of life.
Enjoying life is a gift we give God
Happy Every Day, is a book written by my friend, Bryan Hutchinson. You can read my review for it HERE.
It’s not a book giving empty promises, it’s kind of a workbook. If you do the practical suggestions woven throughout his book, you will be happier.
Happiness and contentment live in the same house. A content person = a happy person.
Philippians 2:14 says, “Do everything without complaining and arguing, so that no one can criticize you.”
When we complain or argue, it’s a sign we’re unhappy. When we’re happy, we have more patience with others.
I said to my daughter Jessica, “ I’m going to see if I can get through the whole day without complaining.”
And you know what? I didn’t make it.
We can control our attitudes
If you struggle with complaining. or you struggle with being critical. If you never see smiles in your mirror, maybe you need a good handbook. A book that will help you revamp your thinking.
Romans 12:2 says, “Be not conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…”
My mind needs to be renewed. I need to think of more positive things and less negative.
It’s not enough that I’ve giving myself permission to live. I want to enjoy my life—to be happy. It will make my Father happy too.
It’s worth a try.