- Are you tired of being negative?
- Wish you could see your glass as half full?
- Want to be more thankful?
All of us have experienced it. You have a series of good things happening. You got that check you were waiting for. You just finished a big project. The whole family was available for dinner. You’re having a good day. And then one little snag caused things to unravel. No matter how many good things you experienced, that one negative seemed to cancel everything out. The one critical comment you heard, the one ingredient that would have made your meal even better, the A- because of one error.
So what can we do?
- We need to replace the magnifying lens we use to detect errors with a wide angle lens which allows us to see the whole picture.
- We need to stop making comparisons. When we make comparisons we lose. Either we feel less than the ones we compare ourselves with, or we somehow feel superior to them; not a winning situation.
- We need to be conscious of what we’re thinking about. One practical tool that helps me is a verse found in Philippians 4:8, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”
Focus on these four words as a good mind-trap
Most of the time when we’re slipping towards negativity, we are believing lies. So asking if our thoughts are true is a great place to start.
Write out this acronym to keep you on track. Then when you find yourself thinking wrong thoughts, take those thoughts captive. Catch them like little gnats that are trying to steal your peace.
Look for what’s positive. It takes practice, but you can do it. Change is possible. The more you move toward the positive, the less negative you will be. And the more positive you are, the more others will gravitate toward you. Pretty soon you’ll start to see glasses half full all over the place.