We all have them. I’d venture to say almost everyday we are disappointed with something or someone. Disappointment coexists with expectations. Some people think they can ward them off by trying to live without expectations.
“I won’t expect anything and that way I won’t get hurt.”
The problem with that is when we disengage ourselves in one area we are disconnected in others.
Perhaps we would be less disappointed if we saw God as He is, sovereign. It says in Psalm 84:11, “For the Lord God is a sun and shield; the Lord gives grace and glory; no good thing does He withhold from those who walk uprightly.”
So according to that verse we can know deep down, if God says “no,” He has reasons I don’t understand. He is after all, God.
We get in trouble when we think God is on the same level with us. We kind of tell Him what we want and then wait for it in anticipation. There are basic truths we can hold onto.
God is always looking out for our ultimate good. Always.
Do we agree with that? Sometimes we will, sometimes we wont. It depends on how much we want what we’re asking Him for.
We need to trust God’s character and what is true when we’re tempted to believe the enemy of our souls at times of disappointment.
No good thing will He withhold from them that walk uprightly. He’s talking about those of us who know Jesus personally. Because we trust in Christ we are walking uprightly.
It doesn’t mean that what we’re asking for isn’t good, but other aspects should also be considered. Maybe it’s good, but the timing isn’t right. God is the God of all time. He sees the future, we don’t.
Maybe He’s withholding the thing I want because it wouldn’t be good for someone else in our lives if He were to give it to us. He knows the hearts of all men.
Maybe God has a more important thing to teach us by this disappointment.
God is the ultimate parent. We can’t see other parents as being good, without the realization they couldn’t be good parents if God wasn’t a loving parent. God is more loving, more patient, more giving.
As we sit nursing disappointments it’s easy for them to transform into resentments. Instead, we can rest in what we know to be true about God.
God loves us. John 15:13 says, “Greater love has no one than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.”
We must remember truth when we are presented with lies. Remember, Satan is the father of lies. He thrives on them.
Satan told Eve that God didn’t really care about her. Why should Satan change his tactics, when they work.
We can choose to trust in God’s truth when we are tempted to think otherwise. Like David, we can think back to other times God has provided for us.
And we can spend our time praising God, even thanking Him when He chooses to withhold things, for He is all wise, all-knowing, and all-loving. No one loves us more, no one.